Men Tend to Misunderstand Women's Sexual Cues
Failing to understand the sexual hints or even straightforward signals of a person you like is an issue that can have various effects. For starters, the part of the couple that is "transmitting" the signals may start thinking that the receiver is not interested, thus shattering his/her confidence ceasing any farther attempts. The receiver of these hints may not understand the interest displayed even if the attraction is mutual.
Is the incident described above something that indeed happens or is it just another popular misconception? According to a recent research conducted by Carin Perilloux, a famous psychologist from the Williams College in Williamstown of Massachusetts, not only it does happen but it is way more frequent than we could think.
The study included a total of 199 people, all of them undergraduates in college. 96 were males while the remaining 103 were females. The procedure was really simple: it had the form of "speed dates" where every person spent about 3 minutes talking to 5 participants of the opposite sex. Before starting these conversations, every member of the study group was asked to rate themselves and also rate the persons they spoke with after the 3 minutes time was over. Both males and females were also evaluated before the whole speed dating procedure began according to their desire for imminent sexual activity.
The results were very interesting, to say the least. Apparently, the way men perceive the interest that women are showing them depends directly on what they think about themselves and if they're planning to have sex. Men who believed that they were handsome or simply wanted to have sex with a particular woman tended to overestimate the attitude of that woman towards them and thought that she was definitely into them, even if it wasn’t the case. However, if a man is not attracted to some woman, he tends to overlook all the signs (even quite obvious ones) of her interest in him.
The majority of women, on the other hand, showed signs of underestimation of the desire that men showed to them.
This characteristic of men can be explained by modern biology, and to be precise by the timeline of human evolution. Scientists claim that men who have high self-esteem, even when it exists in exaggerated levels, tend to approach women more often and, even though they sometimes fail, they succeed in having more sexual experiences than men who are not that self-confident. This allowed the "bold" men to pass their genes to their offspring, creating more men with the aforementioned characteristics.